As kids we all played my dad is stronger than your dad. Or smarter or bigger or whatever the adjective is. Now that we are older and have our own children it has become my child is smarter than your child. Or whatever the adjective is. We all compare our children, all the time. My child is a few months younger than his friends and they are second children. So he usually ends up losing the comparison.
That’s when the guilt sets in. If only I had talked to him more; intentionally stimulated him more; let him play independently more; played outside more; played inside more; watched less TV; taught him about technology. If only. I hope you notice that those are all contradictory statements. We cannot do it all.
God made our children. He made some to be talkative, some to be active, some to be strong, some to be funny. He made them as they are with His purpose for them in mind. He made us their mom with their purpose in mind. He planned it all out.
So mommy, don’t blame yourself if your child ‘loses’. Don’t even compare. An owl will lose to a lion in a feat of strength. But will win at wits. And who is to say if your child is lion or owl? God alone knows the plans He has for them. He will mold them as they need to be. No more my child is better than yours or not as good as yours. Rather, my child is who God intended them to be.